| We sat down three times |
| to chat |
| a bit slowly we listened to |
| his life story, what he had done |
| and his impressions. |
| In Hungarian he told us how he |
| sees us, us Sekler people |
| from far way across the ocean |
| and how this stranger gets along. |
| We found it |
| most interesting that |
| at the age of 70 he studies with |
| such interest and devotion. |
| Hungarian is like a smooth |
| mountain made of glass. |
| There is nothing to hold on to |
| he emphasized. |
| “How does my lord today,” |
| For a long time he did not understand what |
| people were asking. What? Who? Today I |
| understand the expression, he laughs. |
| He is pleased that when he goes to the local |
| coffee shop, people know what he wants... |
| he always orders coffee with hot milk |
| and sour cherry crumb cake. |
| We don't get sour cherries in the US |
| just sweet cherries. The somewhat tart |
| fruit is really the best |
| Robert adds. |
| “He used to teach, now he teaches again” |
| Retired. Not really rich, but |
| he has enough money to |
| study. In his career he |
| taught German at a university |
| “It was the best job of my life” But |
| under Reagan foreign languages |
| and the fine arts took a back |
| seat to |
| business classes |
| students no longer had to learn |
| foreign languages at the university. |
| What could he do. He went back to study |
| accounting and finance |
| and then |
| got a job at a bank. |
| Paper-based work |
| changed to computer-based—and |
| he got new, interesting assignments. |
| But a big bank ate up |
| the little one |
| too many employees |
| for the work that was required. |
| So for a year he got extra salary |
| and then was out |
| of a job. He got involved in some |
| real estate |
| and then retired. |
| But he asked himself , what do I want |
| to do. His answer—go back |
| to teaching. While he had done |
| some publishing as an academic |
| he did not have a teaching |
| certificate to work in a high school. |
| So he looked for a country |
| which had a need for American teachers |
| He was familiar with in Europe. So he |
| got a position in Tata as a visiting teacher |
| For a year and a half he worked |
| in Hungary. The first Hungarian word |
| he learned--”thank you” |
| There were a few students who spoke |
| good English, a few knew German. |
| He met the local chorus director, who |
| was a retired German |
| teacher. She |
| invited him to sing. |
| He did not understand the words |
| But he could read the notes, and the |
| chorus members and dictionaries helped |
| him to pronounce the words |
| The chorus took several trips |
| to sing in venues in other towns, churches |
| and so on. In Csönge they visited the |
| home of Weröes Sandor, |
| now a museum. He did not know |
| --"who is this person who |
| is so important to these people?” On the |
| internet he found a couple of translations |
| “They were very interesting” Robert |
| remembers being introduced to them. |
| I think I need to learn this language |
| so that I can be able |
| to read the poems of Weöres. |
| “I am not a tourist” |
| Without a teacher he started |
| to learn Hungarian on his own. He |
| traveled round Hungary by train |
| and bicycle. Then his job as visiting |
| teacher came to a close. With his family-- |
| spouse, son, daughter and her companion |
| he traveled around and then |
| he returned |
| to the US. |
| With a few former students |
| he talked in Hungarian using Skype |
| He read some Hungarian texts on the internet. |
| Some of his students are now |
| graduating and he promised |
| to attend their ceremony. |
| In the meantime he realized-- |
| There are people in Romania |
| who speak Hungarian |
| as their native tongue. He decided |
| to travel and stay there |
| and do little day trips |
| He wanted to get close to people |
| get to know them. He wrote to several |
| tourist offices and got three answers. |
| the best came from Udvarhely |
| where he selected |
| the Gizi Inn |
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| About 10 days after arriving he was walking |
| on Bethlen Street. Somebody spoke to him |
| In English—your shoe is untied. |
| He wondered, who is it |
| who is speaking English. And so |
| he met Péter Julia, a local |
| English teacher who invited him |
| to meet with some of her |
| students and work with them |
| to prepare for language exams. |
| Expanding his horizons |
| He gets up around 6 am. After breakfast |
| he studies. Nowadays he can understand |
| about 1000 Hungarian expressions. |
| He showed me his tablet computer |
| with the phrase--”he would swear there |
| were no stars in the sky” on the screen |
| he understands and can explain the phrase |
| Abstract words are harder |
| to learn. Recently the word erkölcs (virtue) |
| was something he tried to say—with difficulty |
| He said he wrote about his problem with it |
| in his blog he keeps for his friends, along with the |
| stuff he does each week and his trips |
| by bus and by train to |
| places nearby |
| or on the second hand bike he got |
| at the flea market. About the bike-- |
| “ Not the best, I had to do a little work on it.” |
| He has gone to Korund, Szováta, and to |
| Segesvar too on a recent cold day. |
| He is a repeat visitor to |
| the events at the local art center. |
| He witnessed the Burial of Winter celebration |
| and also went to |
| Csikszentmiklós |
| for their pig butchering festival. |
| He likes it here |
| The countryside is pretty, the town is quiet. |
| He feels safe. The roads have |
| potholes, so biking is a bit dicey |
| And for that reason he does not go biking |
| after sundown. What does he need? |
| “There just aren't any Hungarian films that also |
| have Hungarian subtitles. Just Kis Vuk (popular |
| animated film). It is hard to learn a language |
| without films—being able to repeat, go back, |
| listen again over and over. Makk |
| Károly (noted film director) made lots of films. |
| Good ones, important ones, but only |
| Hungarians can understand them. Why are there |
| no subtitles? Both Hungary and Transylvania are |
| (cultural) islands. Foreigners have no reason to |
| get to know your culture?”--he asks |
| emphatically. “ You need to help |
| people from other countries.” |
| -- What does he think about the Szekély people? |
| Courteous, he replies. He tells this story with strong |
| emphasis. People see that I am not Hungarian. |
| When I speak in Hungarian |
| they reply in English. |
| But when I again |
| speak in Hungarian, they understand-- |
| he is studying the language. From then on |
| they help him. He recently |
| had an unusual experience |
| He spoke with a class |
| and at the end they applauded him |
| That never happened |
| to him in Hungary. |
| He thinks the local students do better |
| in English than those living in Hungary |
| perhaps because |
| they live next door to Romanian speakers |
| and this exposure makes it easier for them. |
| Udvarhely is just right for me |
|
| It is Hungarian, not too large. |
| It has a library, a theater, coffee shops |
| Just no cinema-- well there is one, but |
| the films are all dubbed. |
| He notices that many high school students live here |
| independently. In the US only very rich |
| people would |
| be able to afford |
| to do that. But it is hard to get to |
| Udvarhely by train. |
| Segesvar is only 30 miles away, |
| but the trip takes nearly 2 hours. |
| So the students have to live in town. |
| He does not yet know all of the town, but |
| it seems to him that the Budvar area |
| is the most run down. He noticed at one of |
| the local stores that |
| every book on the shelves was in Romanian. |
| Who is going to buy those books? Udvarhely |
| Is 98% Hungarian! |
| Every single |
| DVD was also Romanian. |
| Vegetables and fruits |
| also had names and descriptions |
| only in Romanian. |
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| He finds the local traditional diet to be heavy. |
| He tried the “priest lettuce” soup, |
| the trout, and the veal stew. |
| They were delicious. For breakfast |
| he wants a quarter of the usual serving-- |
| instead of sausage and cheese |
| he prefers vegetables. He remarks that |
| at the local rail crossing |
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| every vehicle comes to a full stop. |
| Back in the US, if people know there |
| are only 3 trains daily |
| nobody stops. |
| Székely polo shirts? |
| He visited Korund to see |
| if he could pick up some traditional |
| items. We asked him what he |
| thought about things. Well, they |
| are pretty, but just for dress up-- |
| eg, the men's shirts. All the T shirts |
| are made in Asia. Not one produced |
| locally. For example |
| it would be nice if people |
| could wear the stuff to work |
| --stuff embroidered with traditional symbols |
| like the “tree of life” and the moon and stars |
| As others see us.... |
| He wasn't interested in |
| wearing a tie for the photographer. |
| Maybe for my funeral, he said |
| dryly. I told him that |
| the material from our conversations |
| would appear on Thursday. It will be |
| interesting, he said with a boyish grin. |
| I am looking forward to reading it. Now |
| I will be able to see myself through another |
| person”s eyes. |
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